Expect that the court proceedings won’t always be how you expect. Because our mindset is so much influenced by what we see on the TV is far from reality. It is just mere entertainment. Real-life scenarios are not a TV show. They are slow, emotionally draining, and complex. Sometimes winning in court means losing in real life. A highly disputed divorce can be financially, physically, and mentally devastating. It could take you to a point where you’d no longer be an attractive and ideal mate.
Need for Legal Advice
Expecting that going through a rough divorce will make you in need of extra support. No matter how strong you pose to be, sometimes a point comes where you need a hand. Your friends or family will do their best to provide you with that support emotionally. People might ignite more trouble than there already is. Everyone will give you their own judgments but you need to understand that such complex disputes need a lot more than that. You need legal advice. Legal advice that’ll pay off in the long term. Do keep your loved ones close but prioritize your long-term goals. Working with an experienced family law attorney is your best option during this tough time. A family law & divorce attorney understands the complexities of the law, and can fight for your, and your family’s, best interests.
Times Seems to Stop
Expect to arrive in a ridiculous time warp. It is usually not a double-sided decision. One partner typically makes a decision to call it quits while the other party is left to absorb all that and they dragged along. In any circumstance, if one spouse has declared their decision and says it’s over, it is over. Some states have legal laws that justify it while some require both sides to agree to a divorce. As for the parenting and financial decisions, the paperwork is being performed before concluding the case. In these scenarios, time is a strange phenomenon. It moves really fast for the spouse who is being left and moves so slow for the other who wants to get out of it quickly.
Feeling Like Losing Everything
Except that you’re losing. In these scenarios, you ought to feel like you’re at more disadvantage. Ironically, both sides believe they’re at some sort of loss. For the spouse who initiates the divorce, it might seem as if he/she is being held captive as the court appears to move slowly with the case and the other spouse is applying tactics to cancel the case. This becomes very frustrating for that person and eventually, he/she is ready to give up anything just to get out of the marriage. On the contrary, the other spouse is left caught off guard. He/she tries to understand what is happening.
Expect that it will be hard for you to forget the emotional pain you felt while going through the divorce and you’ll likely be always bitter regarding your spouse (or soon-to-be-ex). You have to be careful around your children and try to conceal the hate you have got for your former spouse because after all, they’ll always be the parent of your children. You don’t want to affect their perspective of relationships. But if you don’t have children, you should know how to channel these negative emotions and talk to a therapist.